Most couples don't fight about the dishes.
They fight about what the dishes mean — am I alone in this? Do I still matter to you? — and then the same argument runs again next Tuesday in a different costume.
Rewiring Connection gives you and your partner the words for that pattern, and a way out of it.
Ten worksheets, built to be done in order, each one picking up where the last left off. You'll trace the attachment stories you both brought into this relationship, name the protective parts that show up first in conflict ("The Fixer," "The Wall," "The Critic"), and map your cycle — then give it a name, so it becomes something you face together instead of something you do to each other.
From there it gets practical. A week of tracking the small bids for connection you make and miss. The four communication patterns research links to disconnection, with the antidote for each. A repair plan you write together, including your signal word for calling a pause and what each of you says to come back. Rituals you already have, and one you'd like to add. And a final page where you write your new cycle, step by step, and each sign a commitment you actually chose.
Drawn from Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and the Gottman Method — the same frameworks I use in the therapy room, translated into something you can do at your kitchen table.
What you get
10 fillable worksheets (type directly into the PDF, or print it)
Side-by-side space for both partners, plus a "Together" prompt on each sheet
Instant digital download — yours to keep and revisit
Created by Cristine Steele, LMFT
Who it's for
Couples who keep having the same argument. Partners in therapy who want something to work on between sessions. Anyone who's fine, mostly — and would rather build the habits now than repair the damage later.
This workbook is an educational resource, not therapy, and isn't a substitute for treatment. If your relationship involves abuse or feels unsafe, please reach out to a licensed professional.
Most couples don't fight about the dishes.
They fight about what the dishes mean — am I alone in this? Do I still matter to you? — and then the same argument runs again next Tuesday in a different costume.
Rewiring Connection gives you and your partner the words for that pattern, and a way out of it.
Ten worksheets, built to be done in order, each one picking up where the last left off. You'll trace the attachment stories you both brought into this relationship, name the protective parts that show up first in conflict ("The Fixer," "The Wall," "The Critic"), and map your cycle — then give it a name, so it becomes something you face together instead of something you do to each other.
From there it gets practical. A week of tracking the small bids for connection you make and miss. The four communication patterns research links to disconnection, with the antidote for each. A repair plan you write together, including your signal word for calling a pause and what each of you says to come back. Rituals you already have, and one you'd like to add. And a final page where you write your new cycle, step by step, and each sign a commitment you actually chose.
Drawn from Emotionally Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and the Gottman Method — the same frameworks I use in the therapy room, translated into something you can do at your kitchen table.
What you get
10 fillable worksheets (type directly into the PDF, or print it)
Side-by-side space for both partners, plus a "Together" prompt on each sheet
Instant digital download — yours to keep and revisit
Created by Cristine Steele, LMFT
Who it's for
Couples who keep having the same argument. Partners in therapy who want something to work on between sessions. Anyone who's fine, mostly — and would rather build the habits now than repair the damage later.
This workbook is an educational resource, not therapy, and isn't a substitute for treatment. If your relationship involves abuse or feels unsafe, please reach out to a licensed professional.